I have always been a rule follower—ok, that’s a lie. It’s more accurate to say I’ve always tried really hard to follow the rules until I get so uncomfortable that I have to break them. I tried to be my conception of a good girl, tried to be straight, tried climbing the corporate ladder, tried to not drink too much caffeine, tried to be the best so people would approve of me. Those were just some of the rules I made for myself that didn’t end up working for me.
Here are some other common “rules” that are worth questioning:
I have to work hard to earn lots of money.
I can’t eat after 9 p.m.
I can’t speak up at work because I’m afraid I’ll get fired.
I can’t be an expert because there are other people who know more than me.
It’s not exercise if I don’t feel the burn.
I bring this topic up firstly because I think it’s worth uncovering and questioning your own rules—are your rules serving you or causing you stress? Secondly because I wanted to tell you about another “rule” I’m breaking. My sage marketing advisors recommended I develop one finely targeted niche for my coaching practice. So that’s what I did. This makes a ton of sense to me as a marketer and is great business advice for any entrepreneur. Except it doesn’t work for me. Here’s the deal; I love helping people get their careers back on track and chart the course to their North Star, and I also love helping people lose weight and free themselves from the food obsession. So I now fly in the face of the “rules” and add the slash to my title: career/weight loss coach. How do I know this is the right move? I’m so fired up I can barely stop talking about my two passions and creating programs and classes for you to participate in. (Broke the rules by ending with a preposition—yeah!)
What are the rules you’re following? Which ones could you break? Should you break? By all means, break them.