Are you letting fictional thoughts slip by disguised as facts?
- I have to pay the mortgage.
- I have to get this work project done on time.
- I need to go to this family event.
- I can’t disappoint Aunt Gertie.
And of course…
- I have to lose weight.
These are all fictional thoughts. By “fictional” I mean that they are your story about that particular situation.
The facts of the above scenarios are different:
- I have a loan on my house from the bank.
- There is a project at work with a deadline.
- There is an upcoming family event.
- Aunt Gertie invites me to visit every day.
- I am above my natural weight.
When we treat fiction as fact, we lose our ability to actively make choices.
When you don’t feel you have a choice, it causes you to feel fearful and anxious which can cause you to reach for the nearest bag of Cheetos.
- You may choose to pay the mortgage because you like living in your house.
- You may choose to finish the work project on time because you don’t like the consequences of not finishing on time.
- You may choose to go to the family event, but if you’re clear that it’s a choice, you may also choose not to.
Where are you telling yourself a fictional story disguised as fact?