Think of your emotions like a river.
When you overeat, overdrink, overshop, whatever, it’s like building a dam with sticks, but the only thing that happens is the river builds up behind the sticks until it flows over and through them. The river actually becomes more powerful and concentrated the more you try to stop it. The way to make a river gentler is by widening the banks and smoothing the slope, which in terms of your emotions means allowing them to exist. When your emotions feel big, create a bigger space for them. Allow them to flow. Don’t try to constrict them with dams made of Cheetos and cute shoes.